. . . For being a grown-up!
From comment on FF.net on A Perfect Pet for Donnie:
I love this story!
but I hated the bullying )
Raphael was being so mean! If I were there I would give him one spanking he would not forget.
Now Donnie's got some new pets :3
*laughing so hard* Raph got what was coming to him! XD XD XD XD XD
fear of cockroaches, classic (though I forgot what the phobia name for it is)
Thank you for the story you made, keep up the good work!
Thank you so much! Raph was being a real d***, he totally deserved that payback. XD Fear of cockroaches is Katsaridaphobia. Raph's got it bad. :-D
Thank you and your welcome :3
By the way, might I ask you to refrain from using curse words, I don't feel comfortable about it
sure I can Tolerate it for some time, but it bothers me
If it's not to much trouble that is
and by the way, if you want to chat sometime, my doors always open
And yes, I absolutely love that episode from TMNT 2012, that cockroach episode. I was laughing my face off XD XD XD XD
Sorry, didn't even realize that was considered a curse word. It's just a descriptive way to say someone was being nasty to someone else. It wasn't a four letter word, though the asterisks make it appear that way.
I forgive you
no real harm done
but please be aware next time
So do you have any plans for another story?
By the way, the word I used was “Douche”, the informal North American meaning being “an obnoxious or contemptible person, typically a man”.
I don’t know about everyone else, but the main reason I write is because I enjoy the creative outlet. It is relaxing, it is energizing, and it stimulates my brain. I learn something with nearly every story I write. I do research and I enjoy it.
My primary reason for posting the things I write is because I love to interact with other members of the fandom. I do that through your comments. I have found over the years that you guys are funny, intelligent, thoughtful, charismatic, creative, enlightened, and my favorite – wonderfully witty.
Only a small percentage of the people I meet in real life are any of those things. They don’t energize me the way you folks do.
I have talked to people from all over the world, learned things about other cultures, and exchanged useful tips. And I’ve made friends; people I chat with and been chatting with for years, people I create with, bare my soul to – people I feel honored to know even though I’ve never come face to face with them.
People like MomoRawrr, babygirl127, orangebarmy, Grubus, ashitarimai, MsObscure, BakaMeganekko, ChiakiAngel, Blackdragon-sama, Sherenelle, Teratophelia, FoxKids1302, KameChuu, Dragona15, NeatTea, ScoopGirl and sneefee, to name a few.
There are many others who I’m getting to know and the process of learning about them is invigorating. Thanks to Skype and a couple of chat groups, I’m being introduced to long time members of the fandom whom I’ve never really talked to before, and I’m loving the opportunity.
Before anyone starts to think I’ve gone completely off topic from where this journal began, I really do have a point to make. I’m an adult. I say adult things. For the most part, I write about adult topics. I use adult language – including curse words. When I’m around kids I never curse. When I’m online, I talk like myself because I have no idea if I’m replying to someone who is underage or who might be offended.
The reader who left the above message fusses at me for cursing (and applying that term to the word I used is questionable), then asks to chat with me. Are you kidding? Why would I subject myself to a conversation where I’d have to watch every word I said and basically not be myself?
People sometimes wonder why psychology fascinates me so much. This was a pretty good example. I could spend my whole life studying the subject and still never figure people out.
Honestly, don't even waste your precious time and good mental health with trash.
The one human nature that never ceases to surprise me the most is how one becomes so desperate to the point they use manipulative and forceful means to get someone they are interested in to talk back to you.
This is something I really don't understand; some people want that we change for them that they feel comfortable; I learned to say to those people my honest opinion and that they can go their way but WITHOUT me! I changed so much in my life for people only to be accepted but in the end it was always the same: it was better to be myself!
But I have to say it's always wonderful to see how you enjoy the interactions with the fandom-members and I'm proud to be a part of it! Even if I can't use words like you do, I think I can say many things through my pictures and it reaches you every time!
I do love interacting with the fandom, it makes me feel very alive to communicate with such lovely, intelligent people. Your images say wonderful things to me - they are as emotionally fulfilling as thousands of words would be.
Is this person a kid? I mean, how can you feel uncomfortable with curse words. As an adult you hear them almost everyday and we say them as well every now and then. They are even in movies and books!
By the way, since when is Douche a bad word. Is it a bad word in another country? Like what happens in latin america where the same word may have different meaning depending on the country.
It is fun that this person wanted to chat with you It must be really odd chatting with him/her and having to watch your words at all time.
I'm thinking this person must be young and not yet have an understanding of how the world works. They say a lot worse words than 'douche' on TV shows and even some cartoons! I'm wondering if they want to chat because they don't have anyone else to talk to. They've probably fussed at everyone they've encountered in the internet and now everyone avoids them.
Eh, I get the point that there are people out there who just don't like swearing, in conversation or in writing. More power to them, I guess, that's their thing, and it's fine. To each their own, and all that. But the thing is you can't expect everyone else in the world to cater to that, or to accomidate your own preferences on this or that either. Sure, censoring yourself in certain situations is a good thing, like around kids, or at work, and school, etc... etc... But a complete stranger online? Probably not. I mean it'd be one thing if you were calling this person a douche lol! But you weren't, so it wasn't something I can really see as being offensive.
Regardless, I don't get why this person you talked to would be all - let's chat! - like right after pulling the "I'm offended by your language" card. Seems weird to me, but I could be wrong. Maybe they just wanted to get to know you a little better, and said what they said in the hopes that it wouldn't bother you? I have no idea. Still, I think it's better to just be you, and do what you do.
Trying to avoid swear words in written works or in comments or blogs is unrealistic. Besides, it's pretty goofy to start right in lecturing someone about one questionable word, especially if you don't know the person at all and never will. Part of the appeal of the internet is to be able to be yourself without the expectations you're required to adhere to in regular life.
If you don't like someone's speech patterns, why would you want to keep talking to them? That makes no sense.
True, but people also have that weird way of actively looking for stuff to get their panties in a twist over too. Plus there are those who unintentionally wind up just kind of walking right into it. I've seen comments before on fics where like twelve chapters in someone finally drops an f-bomb, and a commenter had an issue with it, since up until then there hadn't been anything like that in there. So I suppose it depends on the individual. Though you have a point, it is the internet, and there's a heck of a lot worse things out there than someone saying the word "douche" in casual conversation lol!
Eh, maybe they were just thinking it might be a casual swearing sort of thing. Lotta people out there are casual swearers, myself included. They mighta just wanted to chat, but also wanted to let you know stuff like that bothers them, and wasn't meaning to be uppity - just came off that way. Who knows? Still, whether or not you censor yourself is completely your call, and not for anyone else to decide for you.
and yeah, cursing online is... an odd thing
me, personally, i don't mind reading it (i actually enjoy reading some well-placed or creative smutty mouth )
i don't curse much, neither online nor offline, but it's mostly because i work with kids and i've worked hard to remove harsh curse words from my language, because i am bad at censoring myself, so having a mild general language is easiest XD
(i often exchange curse words with harmless/cute/silly alternatives)
i think you should feel free to use curse words in "appropriate" settings freely (which is super hard to explain... i mean basically in every setting in which you're not yelling political incorrect terms AT people to humiliate or anger them)
....the more i write, the weirder this gets, so i'll stop.
potty-mouth on, my friend!
I don't curse much in real life either. It's out of place at work (unless I'm mad at one of the machines). I don't do it much online either. It's in my stories because certain characters are just natural at it. I certainly didn't see 'douche' as a curse word and I don't want to run to the urban dictionary every time I type out a reply. I guess I'll save the lengthy ones for people I know, just to be on the safe side.
so good luck with getting skype all sorted out / your internet fixed
if it doesn't work, i can get another program, if something else works better for you
may i ask what your work is?
i'm not sure if i know and just forgot XD
yeah, it's starting to get ridiculous with how sensitive people are being...
i don't mean to de-value people who have triggers or who are seriously upset with certain topics...
but it slowly turns into a trend where everyone needs something they can get "triggered" by and people start un-learning how to just deal with life.
in all honesty, i'm not gonna pussyfoot around each and every person just IN CASE someone has delicate sensibilities and feels offended by what most people consider "normal, everyday language".
again, if there's some real reason behind it, completely fine, but then i expect people to STILL have enough responsibility to openly say it and actively try to avoid their triggers, instead of just expecting everyone else to magically know about them and protect them / do the work FOR them
because THAT kind of drama might just trigger ME
ugh... okay, sorry, this turned into a ramble
tl;dr, triggering things are completely valid. being an over-sensitive internetbaby is not.
Some people uses curses all the time, some never. While I don't think it was wrong of the reader to express their preference, I do think it was odd they then wanted to chat with you.
I understand wishing to be able to express yourself freely, the tough part is finding the right person to chat to.
In our home fuck was a verb, noun, adverb, conjunction and descriptor, etc. It it was a nice day it was a fuckin nice day, if she had some nice clothes she was wearing some fucking nice clothes...you get my point. That colorful aspect of my childhood has carried over into motherhood and my daughter now hears a lot of the same dialogue come from me that came from (and still comes from) my Mom. She's desensitized to it and yet understands perfectly that these are curse words that only adults can use and when you're old enough (that golden age of 13) then you can use them, until then it's soap in the mouth. (Just like my Mom did to me, nice to see the hypercritical world goes around.)
Where was I going with this....Oh yea.
Now with that being said, I have a girlfriend of mine who absolutely will not cuss, not even after dropping a full teapot on her foot and breaking her toe. She was wasn't even creative, like my Mom's "Sugar, Honey, Iced, Tea," not a single curse word came out of her mouth. When Sues around, I don't cuss, it's something she doesn't like, it makes her real uncomfortable and she's got her own nine year old daughter, because she was raised in a strict household. I edit myself because I love the girl and our kids are attached at the hip. So with that being said, yea we can police ourselves but honestly, I'm not going to do it for a stranger.
And for those who want to know....Hai la faccia di una caffettiera
Didn't hear a lot of curse worse as a kid but when I hit high school I learned them all. I did not carry them home with me. It was fine for dad to spill a few, but if any slipped from my mouth I'd either be eating soap, or my mouth would be in no condition to eat.
I police my language in real life too, but I'm human and when aggravated a few choice things slip out. I've learned that in the business world it's not only unprofessional to spit out curse words, it makes you sound uneducated. When I'm online, I feel like I should be able to express myself with whatever words are appropriate. If someone doesn't like my speech pattern, they don't have to read what I have to say. Simple.
No, cussing in the business world is always a no no. Unprofessional and can get you slapped with harassment or unsafe/hostile work environment.
Though there have been some studies out lately that show that cussing does not make you sound uneducated.